New year, new direction…

Written by admin on January 25th, 2011

For the past 6 months or so, I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching. I want to know what my purpose in life is. Everywhere you look you see motivational banners, artwork, bumper stickers, quotes, etc. about living your dream, being who you want to be, living with purpose, doing what you love, and all kinds of other stuff along those lines. It is pretty frustrating when you want to do all of those things but you have no idea how to even start.

So what to do… the thing is, I know what I love to do. I love to help people. I love to teach. I love kids and animals. I love to read self-help books. I love learning. When I was younger, I always had a plan. Up until the day I quit teaching I knew exactly what I wanted to do with my life. I loved teaching. I love to travel. So how do I find a job that lets me travel and teach?

Well I could teach English in another country… but I have a family that I love very much and I can’t imagine not being able to see them whenever I want. I could be a traveling speaker… which I would actually love to do, but I don’t know what to speak on. I could have an online store or sell affiliate products online and make tons of money and do whatever I want, just like Tim Ferris and Frank Kern and Amish Shah and all the other cool kids I want to be like… this seems like the best option. This is what I have been wanting to do for the last 3 years.

So what is stopping me? Well, you need to become an expert on something. That something is where I keep getting stuck. Then all of a sudden it dawned on me today that I really want to help people be happy. I want to help them achieve their dreams. I want to give them all of the tools they need to be happy, healthy, all-around good people.

So what makes me an expert on how to be a good person? Well, I guess it is just the fact that I consider myself to be a good person. I take care of my family, I try to take care of the planet in the best ways I know how, I see the best in other people, I love everyone and forgive people, I don’t take things too personally, I try and see things from other people’s perspectives, I appreciate everything, I don’t say bad things about people, I don’t get mad very easily, I try not to judge, and I always do the thing that seems the most right for the most people. Of course I’m not perfect, but I am happy. I want other people to be happy, too.

So what is the point of this very long blog about me and my life you ask? Well I am going to re-purpose this blog into something meaningful, something closer to my heart. I am going to make this blog a place for people to go to find ways to be happy, to be a better person, to help the world and make it better. I’m going to share what I’ve learned and what I continue to learn.


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Sade. No ordinary love

Written by admin on August 24th, 2011
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Nelly at 933 concert

Written by admin on May 14th, 2011
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David de Alva. Spanish guitar.

Written by admin on April 17th, 2011
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Make Friends – How to Make Friends

Written by admin on March 23rd, 2011

One of the most important things in life is your friendships. Learning how to make friends may have passed you by when you were younger. I never had a lot of friends until the last few years. I moved a lot when I was little and I guess you could say I was an odd child. I never understood why girls went to the bathroom together or got really excited for no reason. I didn’t dress like the cool girls and boys didn’t like me until high school. I always had one or two really close friends and I was happy with that.

Anyway, I digress. So how did I go from having a few friends to knowing tons of people and making lots of friends? Well, I guess the first thing is my attitude changed. I got a new job where my job was to meet people. Any fear I felt had to be overcome because my job was in sales and I had to go out and meet people or I was going to get fired. While this was mandatory for me, it really helped me figure out fast how to make friends. You can’t sell anything to someone who doesn’t like you. You can’t sell anything to someone who thinks you are fake. I had to figure out really fast how to make people like me.

Instead of thinking of others as being judgmental and mean and not really liking very many people, I started to love everyone. I started thinking of everyone as my friend that I just didn’t know yet. Instead of acting aloof because I was shy and intimidated, I started smiling more and asking more questions when I met people. I became more interested in other people than I was in myself. I let that interest in other people overtake the intimidation I felt when meeting someone new for the first time. Luckily, I discovered that it really isn’t difficult to make people like you.

OK, so how did I meet these new friends in the first place? I joined a lot of groups, started volunteering, and started networking. I went on Craigslist and eventually Meetup.com and went to activities I liked to do. At first it was a little awkward to go places where no one knows each other, but everyone there has the same goal to have fun and meet new people. After a few times, you start seeing the same people and talking to them more and things become more comfortable. Before I knew it, I had made tons of friends. It took me about six months before I could say I had made some real friends from going to all of these activities, but it was totally worth it.

If you want to know how to make friends I would break it into these steps:

1. Join some groups, volunteer, or take a class.
2. Be friendly and outgoing and smile at people.
3. Ask people how they are and be happy to see them.
4. As you start seeing the same people over and over, start asking them more questions about their life.
5. If you meet someone you like, invite them to other activities and events you are doing.
6. Don’t be too forceful or aggressive about being their friend. If someone doesn’t seem interested in hanging out with you, don’t take it personally. There could be a million reasons why.
7. Help people if they need it. Not to the extent that they are walking all over you, but if they mention a problem or trouble with something, volunteer to help them.
8. Don’t judge people. Encourage people in anything they are trying to do. Don’t be negative.


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Become A Flight Attendant- My Experience With Interviewing

Written by admin on February 11th, 2011

I was thinking about becoming a flight attendant, so I applied online for a major airline. I was a little surprised when I actually got a call about a week later for a phone interview. I don’t have a lot of customer service experience and most of my jobs have been in sales or with children but I guess I did well enough on the phone interview to land me a face to face interview in Phoenix. I was pretty excited and they paid for my flight out there and back.

My face to face interview was scheduled for two weeks after the phone interview. I left San Diego for Phoenix at 6:30am and arrived around 9am. The email I received said the interview wasn’t until 11 am so I was a bit surprised to see the shuttle already waiting at the door and about 10 people already on there when I went to where I was supposed to meet it.

Everyone was really friendly and outgoing, so it was fun. We waited together in a room for about 20 minutes until another group of people arrived and then went into a different room where they had coffee and pastries waiting for us. They gave us a few minutes to eat and hang out, and then at 10 am we all had to take turns getting up in front of everyone (about 40 people) and saying our names, where we were from, our best customer service experience that we have given, and why we would be a good match for the airline.

Once that was finished they took each of us to a place to test our height and make sure we fit in the jump seat. Next was the one on one interviews. They gave us lunch and we all waited for our turns. The interviewers were really nice and friendly. They asked us 6 questions such as: tell me about a time when you had a customer from a different background, how you handled it, and what the outcome was; tell me about a time you had a disagreement with a boss or coworker and how you handled it; tell me about a time you had an unreasonable customer and how you handled it; tell me about a time you had a change of procedure, what it was, and how you handled it. They were all scenario questions about a specific time or experience with a customer or someone you worked with.

After all the interviews were done, they called about 10 people and told them to go home. The rest of the people were put in groups and given a scenario to solve as a team. They give you a situation, such as: you’re in Canada, it is freezing, the pilots are dead, you have these 10 items… what do you do? Name the items in order of importance.

Then they send more people home. Not sure exactly what happens after that, as I didn’t make it, but I think they keep the people who they chose to fill out paperwork and do a background check.

All in all, it was a great experience. I had a fun time meeting people and getting to know them. I even went to dinner with the people who left with me. After thinking about it, it is probably better that I didn’t get the job. You don’t make any money, you have to deal with rude, disgruntled people all the time, and I would have had to move away from my family. The lure of being able to travel all over was a strong one, but in the end I think I ended up exactly where I belong.


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How To Be Happy- Step #3

Written by admin on February 7th, 2011



So you’re grateful, you moved… now what? How to be happy step #3 is: Find your purpose! Finding your purpose is easier said than done, I know, trust me. If you want to be happy, you need to know what it is that you want to do to be happy.

Here are some examples of purpose:

To make a difference in other people’s lives
To contribute to society or the community
To discover new things
Save the planet
To teach or coach
To find new cures for disease or sickness
To be happy

You can also look at the people you admire the most. What do you admire about them? Would you like to do what they do? What was/is their purpose?

If you were old and on your death bed, what would you want to look back on your life and said you did? Do you have a “bucket-list” of things to do before you die? If not, make one.

If you could do one thing to change the world, what would you do? How do you start? Do you need special tools or training? Why haven’t you started?

Your purpose in life doesn’t have to be something amazing unless you want it to be. My purpose is to help others, teach, and be happy. If I am doing those things, I am fulfilled.

It’s not about the money, the fast cars, or the toys… although they are fun to have. What is really going to make you happy is knowing that you have a choice in life. You can decide what you want to do and do it. It might not happen tomorrow but if you do one thing each day, someday it will be done. If you don’t start, however, you will never be happy because you will always have that feeling inside you that you aren’t fulfilling your purpose in life.


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What To Do… What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do

Written by admin on February 7th, 2011


Every once in awhile I find myself not knowing what I want to do. I enjoy a wide variety of activities and take joy in the simple pleasures in life so it doesn’t take long to figure out something to do. However, there are those rare occasions when I need some ideas. Do you ever have that challenge?

Next time you find yourself thinking, “I’m bored, what should I do”, here is a list:

Attend a sporting event
Ask someone to tell you a story about themself
Audition for a play or tv show
Bake something for yourself or for a gift
Build something- a birdhouse, a greenhouse, a playhouse, a deck, a boat, etc.
Babysit for a friend or relative
Create something- a recipe, a cartoon, a business plan, a romantic evening, a new game, a photo album
Clean
Cook a fancy/ healthy/ special meal
Climb a mountain
Drive somewhere new
Dance- either at home, take a lesson, or go out to a club
Design something- a house, a garden, a restaurant
Do a crossword, jigsaw, rebus, or sudoku puzzle
Daydream
Fish
Find out what was happening the day you were born
Fly a kite
Fly a plane
Go somewhere new
Go hiking
Go camping
Go to the library
Go to the movies
Go to the bookstore
Go to church
Gaze at the stars
Go back to school
Go sailing
Go live in another country
Go to a garage sale/ flea market
Go to an event in your city
Go to a museum
Golf
Have a garage sale
Have a candlelight dinner
Have sex
Help a cause/non-profit/someone in need
Invite friends over
Invent something
Join a new group/club
Learn something new- an instrument,a song,a skill,a game,a hobby,car repair, plumbing, health tips, computing
Listen to the radio
Meditate
Make something- a movie, a cd, a candle, a gift, a card, a dress, a quilt, a website
Memorize something- a poem, a song, the state capitols, the presidents
Meet new friends/ people
Offer something to a friend or neighbor
Play an instrument
Paint something- art, ceramics, your house, old furniture
Play with children
Play a sport- volleyball, tennis, swim, surf, dive, water polo, soccer, football, lacrosse, hockey
Pick some flowers
Play cards
Pick fruit at a local orchard
Pretend you’re a tourist in your own city and visit the landmarks and sites
Pan for gold
People watch
Run
Ride a bike, motorcycle, the trolley, the bus, the train, a horse
Roller skate or blade
Read
Renovate a house or building
Sleep
Search for your family history
Start a collection- stamps, shells, fairies, tea cups, antiques
Sunbathe – use sunscreen
Scuba dive
Snorkel
Start a new club or group
See how many strangers say hello back to you
Shop
Start a newsletter
Start a new business- a bed and breakfast, a coffee cart
Sell something on ebay or amazon.com
Take a survey
Travel
Visit old friends/relatives
Volunteer
Walk- in your neighborhood, around the lake, barefoot through a stream
Write- a letter, a book, a movie script, a computer program


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Good Quote From Eben Pagan

Written by admin on February 1st, 2011

I was looking through Eben Pagan’s new program called Self-Made Wealth and heard a great quote… “No matter how far down the wrong path you’ve gone, turn around.” He said it is a Turkish quote and I think it is fantastic. I think sometimes people think they’ve gone past the point of no return, or they are too old, or nothing they do is going to matter. It is not too late.

Eben’s videos are good information for anyone who is not financially where they want to be. He doesn’t sugarcoat anything and he tells it like it is. He talks about how people with money who don’t go out and buy a bunch of stuff are considered “cheap”. Well the thing is, the reason they have money in the first place is because they are cheap. They save their money to buy things that will make them more money. This is great advice for anyone.

Eben always has great stuff but that quote really made me think, I suppose because sometimes I go down the wrong path. Sometimes it feels like maybe I should keep going because it probably won’t do any good to fix things. Of course, this doesn’t happen to me very often because I always try to do the right thing, but everyone makes mistakes sometimes.

There once was a man who decided to change careers and become a lawyer. He did some research and was able to find a program and finish it in two years. He was over 40, married, and had 2 children. There are no excuses. Stop making them. If there is something you want to do, then do it. If you are going the wrong way, then turn around.


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She & him at la food expo

Written by admin on January 28th, 2011



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Tony Robbins – Stop Lying To Yourself

Written by admin on January 28th, 2011

When I walk my dogs I usually listen to either Tony Robbins or Think and Grow Rich on my ipod. Today Tony was talking about how people will lie to themselves and tell themselves everything is ok when it really, isn’t until they get to the point where they HAVE to do something.

For instance, maybe you’ve gained a few pounds. You don’t really worry about it and tell yourself it isn’t a big deal. You make excuses about how you’ve just been too tired to exercise lately, but you’ll start tomorrow. Before you know it, you’ve gained 20 pounds, your clothes don’t fit, you’re having trouble exercising, and you can feel the love handles around your hips. Suddenly, you’re freaking out. You have to do something. Finally you take action and lose some weight. Then you get comfortable again and maybe slow down with the workouts. Thus a vicious cycle keeps going.

So how do you stop things like this from happening? You stop lying to yourself. You need to be honest and tell yourself it isn’t ok to gain a few pounds, or overspend, or put things off. You need to stop telling yourself it isn’t a big deal or whatever other stories you tell yourself to make them ok.

If there is something you want to do, you need to do something about it right away. Tomorrow will never come. Even if it is something for only 20 minutes, at least you did something.


Things I’m happy about today:

Went on a picnic with my grandparents, got a call for a phone interview for a major airline, got a cool marketing idea, started a new computer class, the weather was perfect, got to sleep in


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